Assuming you have reviewed the Courtship Process Model, I believe it’s pretty clear that courtship is a very serious commitment to enter into. Anything less would be doing yourself and others a disservice and could create a potential harmful situation. We want to see you happily engaged in a relationship, but in a God ordained relationship with someone who can truly complement you according to the plans and purposes you were designed to fulfill. You are an amazing person and deserve nothing less than an amazing partner.
Having said that, we are asking you to make a commitment to the Courtship Process. Here’s what’s included in your commitment:
To seek God before seeking a mate
To pursue or accept a pursuit only when you’re emotionally available
To seek out accountability partners
To engage in courtship only when your intent is marriage
To not engage in courtship until you have clearly defined core values/non-negotiables and boundaries
To protect the person you engage in courtship with – that incudes their heart, emotions and body too
To maintain integrity and transparency through the entire process
To engage in sound marital counseling before saying “I Do”
Here are a few things to do if you are considering a christian relationship
Take a few days and write out what you believe to be the things you refuse to compromise on. This list shouldn't be long, but the things you place on this list should be absolute must haves to enter into a relationship. These are your non-negotiable deal-breakers. Next, create a second list of the things you desire in a mate. Feel free to list as many things as you want. This is your “ideal spouse” list.
Then pray and wait on God to bring the right person, and when he/she comes you will know then because you have prayed and he/she meant up to your expectation and above all make God the center of your decision, as any relationship not built on christ will not stand.
